Schedule a quitting time for devices
“It’s impossible to bond with the people who are in the room with you when your attention is elsewhere,” says Milrad. “Meaningful connections at the dinner table cannot happen when everyone is busy checking their phones.” To help promote healthier family dynamics, set rules for when technology is off-limits in the house. Pick a common area, such as a box or basket, where all family members must leave their digital gadgets during the designated tech-free timespan. When you establish household rules about technology use, one person isn’t forced into nagging others to power down.
Change your activities
It’s not uncommon to see a restaurant or coffeehouse full of people staring at their phones. If you’re worried about your ability to resist the lure of your cellphone, make more action-oriented plans with your friends, like taking a walk or learning a new activity together. This will help you be more mindful of your environment and focused on the people around you.
Give yourself permission to disconnect
Addicted to your mobile device because you have a job where it’s the norm to respond to email and text messages outside of business hours? Life coach Amy Hall says you may need to give yourself permission to disconnect to feel comfortable separating from technology. “We experience the most trouble disconnecting on our days off because we have an impulse to stay connected but feel a pull to make the most of our weekends,” she says. “The paradox can be quite anxiety-inducing.”
When her clients struggle with the idea of disconnecting because of work demands, Hall suggests they schedule 30 minutes on Sunday mornings to comb through email for any emergencies or fires to put out, write a to-do list for the week ahead, and make specific short- and long-term goals. Tending to pressing business (briefly) and outlining what the week ahead will entail can relieve the sense of anxiety that powering down often presents.
Create a new morning ritual devoid of electronics
Hall says that you’re sending yourself a signal that electronics will rule your day if you reach for the phone first thing. “Take time for yourself in the morning: meditate, have a screenless breakfast as a family, set positive intentions for your day before you ever glance at a screen,” she says. Although your mobile device may give you access to vital information, news, and tools, you’re in charge of where you place your attention.